Do i have a gender identity?

I don't know if I have a gender identity problem, if I'm bi sexual, gay, or have a race dentity problem. Here's the thing I like guys but I can't really get that really good sexual arousal feeling when my boyfriend touches me. Sometimes it irritates me when he touches or kiss me but I love him and sometimes I do wanna kiss him. I try to avoid having sex with him sometimes too. I don't really want to be with a gir sexually but the thought is arousing and I like kissing them but I don't wanna like do oral with them. And I don't like when my boyfreind looks at girls either I get extremely jealous. He's attractive by the way. I don't really like doing the stereotypical things girls like to do or talk about and I much rather be friends with guys their much more laid back and I get along more, and I don't Really like dressing too girly or painting my nails because I hate when guys look at me it disgusts me. I'm mixed with black and white but I dentify more with other people besides black people and I. Don't like black dudes at all I'm totally not attracted to them in anyway, but a lot of guys in general or ugly to me..maybe I'm very picky or something is terribly wrong with me I hate being a girl and I hate how their used as sex symbols and exploited in society and the media. I just want to dressthe way I want to.my bf loves me a lot he just wishes I dress up more often because I'm good looking.